Let me preface this post by saying.. I firmly believe in யாதும் ஊரே யாவரும் கேளீர். I consider all of us to be the citizens of this world (like Kalpana Chawla said) and wherever we choose to live, we are there.. Having said that, I am part of countless discussions about R2I and wanted to post my bit..
I returned to
With that said, Let me get back to the subject on hand. R2I as a topic / issue is regularly discussed, debated and argued frequently in most of the social gatherings is US and elsewhere. One question that universally gets asked is WHY? Is it the parents, kids or the job?
In fact, before answering that question, I tried to understand why I went to US in the first place. I moved to US because it was the in thing to do at that time. No body questioned me why I wanted to go to US. It was assumed and understood that I am going to US for all the right reasons namely for higher education, better paying jobs & more opportunities etc., However, when we decided to return, every one from our immediate family to acquaintances asked us WHY?
I had a tough time answering this question then and I struggle even now. There was no single reason why we decided to move back and I didn't believe we needed one. As the mind tried to rationalize (analysis paralysis stuff), we listened to our heart and made the decision to come back. But I must admit, I am NOT fully at ease with our R2I decision even now, but I am more comfortable now than two years back.
Most of us have heard of the x+1 syndrome and we generally have laugh about it and move on. But this is one of the most critical elements of the R2I decision making process that requires close attention. I vividly remember even now a play my mother acted, when she visited us in
Regardless of the reasons (or lack of it), the move has to be strongly internalized and accepted. It has to be a family decision. Not that everyone will be on the same page and see it the same way. There will be different threat perceptions and different fears. But, everyone in the family unit must be taken in to confidence and involved in the process to the degree it is apt for their age and role.
Several factors like job, kids, schooling, location, family and social network will come in to play as you go through the decision making process. All these factors must be considered based on its applicability to the family. My point is “Don't move back just because IT sector is booming in
Also, keep the decisions making process separate from the execution / implementation aspects / details. It is important to understand various factors that will impact the decision and take them in to consideration. However, trying to iron out all execution details will only derail the whole process. Once the decision has been made then things like school admission, accommodation etc., should be delved in to. There will always be challenges and surprises that we haven't thought off. So, focus on the decision first and then get in to implementation aspects with some flexibility.
I am considering a few more posts on this subject as a series. I welcome your comments and thoughts on this important subject. If you have queries and would like to discuss this further, please do ping me @ firstname.lastname@example.org.
Ram, I do look forward to more of your posts on this. Your perspective will be among the best that anyone can get on this subject since you have first-hand experience :-)ReplyDelete
Ram, Looking forward to your series...ReplyDelete
I totally know what you mean about everything that goes on your head the moment you think of returning back. It is a mixture of feelings -depression, happiness of returning back to your family, anger that your country is not as well developed as the US etc etc. There is also so much of uncertainity involved and the reverse culture shock that you go through.
Anyway, that was an awesome post and I look forward for the series. You are an awesome runner too and I really enjoyed running with you the other day. We got to try and do a small one again.
Yes.. I will do that.. I am interested in your thoughts too.. You are in US now and may be going through some of these yourself.. so your perspective will be interesting as well..
Thanks.. I will do that
Thanks for dropping by.. Great to run with you last weekend.. Let's do a smaller run this weekend..
V r in the thinking of process of R2I. u'r suggestions r always most valuable... Hope the series will give more ideas to think... Awesome post!
Good luck.. Expect my next post this weekend..
Mr.Ram, this was a very interesting post ! I look forward to reading more on this topic. I visit your blog now and then and enjoy reading your posts :-)ReplyDelete
Welcome to my blog.. your comments are much appreciated..
I am working on the next post on this subject.. will post it in a day or two..
i read what u try to explain.i clearly feel that u were directionless when u decided to go abroad and even now u r equally directionless.u try to hide this by calling urself world citizen.i m nor trying to blame u but many people like u r now in india who r slowly corrupting things.it's correct that as a human being with thinking power u r free to do whatever u want,yet u try to rationalise urself.why?u r coward if u r doing so.do whatever u want,but don't corrupt people like kalpana chawala by using them for ur escape.ReplyDelete
This is in response to kiranlimaye's comments above:ReplyDelete
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A saying from Swami Vivekananda
Ram - Nice post (a little too close for comfort, but I guess we are all in the same boat) & very good to hear you are a runner. In the US for another 2 weeks, coming back to beloved Chennai after 12 years here. And ours was a total family decision, down to our 9 year old looking forward to it and joining up with a cousin and a friend who R2Ied a couple of years ago.ReplyDelete
And I have been a runner since 2007, and actually felt I might have to reduce that if I went to India because of the heat, pollution, etc., but definitely know now it can be done. Will start following ChennaiRunners on Twitter, and hey, maybe we can run together sometime soon.
Welcome back to India & Chennai.. We will be glad to have you in our group.. run with us..